Helping introverted engineers speak up and be seen
Stop waiting to feel ready.
Start doing what matters to you.
You’re an introverted engineer and you want to grow in your field of interest.
You’ve given 110% on all your projects and followed trainings.
You’ve spent time after hours to make deadlines and to improve your technical capability, because you want to contribute fully (and not ask any dumb questions).
You’ve forced yourself to attend networking events to get exposure and make connections.
You’ve invested in self-help material to build more confidence and better habits.
You’ve followed professional speakers and diligently implemented their strategies.
Yet you still don’t feel good enough nor ready to make the next step.
You’re secretly happy if someone else takes the lead, even though you want to be more visible.
You overthink, self‑critique, and hesitate before speaking up. Then you replay conversations and presentations in your head afterwards to point out all your flaws.
You’re getting frustrated because you’re done with feeling so awkward about yourself, but you cannot find a strategy that seems to work for you.
You’re used to being able to solve the problem if you work on it hard enough, so you’re starting to feel defeated.
Is this the one problem you can’t solve?
This might sound familiar
The real problem isn’t a lack of confidence
Most advice assumes that confidence has to come first. Once you feel ready, calm, or self-assured enough, you’ll finally speak up or take action. So you try to think your way there. You argue with your inner critic. You analyse, prepare, replay conversations, and wait for the doubt to quieten down.
But for you, the mind rarely goes quiet.
You already have insight. You already care deeply about doing things well. The problem isn’t a lack of self-awareness, discipline or ability. The problem is that fear and self-doubt have slowly taken over as the decision-makers. They tell you to wait, to be safe, to get more experience first. And so you stay stuck in preparation instead of participation, rumination instead of action.
Over time, that waiting comes at a cost. You feel further away from the work and life that matter to you, not because you’re incapable, but because you’ve been trying to feel different before you act. And the longer you wait to feel ready, the more disconnected you feel from yourself.
The missing piece
You’ve already developed many of the skills you’re told matter. Through your education and experience, you’ve learned how to think critically, manage your time, collaborate with others, and deliver strong technical outcomes. On paper, you’re capable — often more capable than you give yourself credit for.
Yet something still feels missing.
Not another qualification. Not more preparation. And not higher self‑esteem.
The missing piece is the ability to consistently speak and act in line with your values — especially when anxiety, self‑doubt, or uncertainty show up. Because no matter how skilled you are, if fear is the thing making your decisions, your impact will always be smaller than it could be.
We tend to believe that confident action depends on having high self‑esteem or feeling ready first. In reality, people with both high and low self‑esteem hesitate, avoid, and stay quiet when fear is in charge. The difference isn’t how they feel about themselves — it’s whether they’re willing to take values‑based action despite how they feel.
When you learn to let your values, not your inner critic, lead the way, things begin to shift. You start contributing more fully. You set boundaries that protect what matters. You take meaningful steps forward — not because the doubt has disappeared, but because it no longer gets the final say.
You only need a Little Ripple
This is where Little Ripple Coaching comes in.
Rather than trying to get rid of anxiety, boost confidence, or fix your mindset, we work on something far more practical: changing how you relate to your thoughts so they stop running your life.
Your mind will continue to generate doubt, caution, and worst‑case scenarios — that’s not a flaw, it’s how a thoughtful, analytical brain works. The problem only arises when those thoughts are treated as instructions rather than information.
Through values‑based coaching, you learn how to stop debating with your mind and start choosing your actions deliberately. Instead of waiting to feel ready, you practise showing up as you are — thoughtful, introverted, and imperfect — in service of what matters to you.
This approach allows confidence to emerge as a by‑product of action, not a prerequisite for it. You don’t become louder or more extroverted. You become clearer, steadier, and more self‑directed.
So how does that work?
In practical terms, our work together focuses on building your capacity to act when it counts — not by forcing yourself, but by grounding your choices in your values.
You’ll learn how to notice self‑doubt without getting pulled into it, how to speak up even when your voice shakes, and how to stop over‑preparing as a way of avoiding risk. You’ll practise setting boundaries that are calm and firm, rather than apologetic or reactive.
Over time, this shows up in very tangible ways. You contribute more in meetings and presentations. You advocate for yourself without over‑explaining. You make career decisions based on meaning rather than fear. And instead of rehearsing life in your head, you trust yourself to respond in real time.
This isn’t about becoming fearless. It’s about becoming reliable to yourself — especially in moments where you’d usually retreat
PLEASE NOTE:
Coaching is not a “quick fix” or a guided tour
Coaching is not a series of meetings you can passively “attend” and then forget about until the next meeting rolls along. It involves analysis, decision making and action that starts before the first meeting and will extend beyond the last meeting. It’s a process that takes time, and like with most things in life: the more effort you put in, the more you will get out of it.
A coach is not a licensed medical professional. Therefore, I cannot help you if you are experiencing trauma, extreme stress, effects of abuse (emotional or physical), deep grief, depression (current or past), suicidal thoughts, or mental health issues. This is for your own safety as well as my own.
